Of a personal note I would like to add a real-life example of how being perfected has played out in my life. There are people who love to point back to things I did maybe once, or maybe a few times, 15 or 20 years ago to attack my current character. Under the process of perfecting, or maturing that we are discussing what was done in the past is just that – the past. This past serves as only a guidepost to me to show how far I have come in God’s restoration plan of a life meant to be surrendered to Him. Because people attack to past, or even the present, has no bearing on the fact that God is doing a new work in me. The perspective of God is all that matters to me. The Holy Spirit is working in me today and the results will be seen tomorrow.
Therefore you shall be perfect just as your Father in heaven is perfect. (Matthew 5:48)
Church Pulpit Commentary Part III
The immense power of prayer in this matter.—Alas! we have so little faith in its efficacy. We pray, and there the matter ends; for the most part we have not the faith to expect and look for the answer. Pray for the particular graces which you need to perfect you in holiness, and then expect the answer to come. For He gives the Holy Spirit to them that ask Him, and surely with Him we have all. More and more our life will be perfected here, until at last we come by His Almighty power ‘unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.’
This is application summed up for you concerning growth, maturity, and perfection. If you desire growth, and it is the Biblical command, then pray for it with faith. God never commands without providing the means. Don’t give up; expect results over time – maybe a long time. God wants to work, but sometimes we need to ask before He works and sometimes He forges forward without our consent. God wants growth and He can accomplish His goal.